Amber Rae used to work in Silicon Valley before selling all her belongings and moving to New York, US. Now, she does what interested her as a child.
‘I’ve always been curious about the human condition, asking questions like: What holds us back? Help us to grow?’ writes Rae on her website. ‘I picked up my first psychology book when I was 11, and I’ve been exploring what it means to be human ever since.’
On @heyamberrae, Rae shares images and phrases that sometimes pop up just when you find yourself worrying about something too much.
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A life-changing realization I had years ago: there’s no such thing as a negative emotion. Culturally, many of us grew up hearing “don’t cry,” “don’t be upset,” or “don’t feel that way.” As a result, we learn to reject, deny, and hide parts of ourselves. We may learn to label certain emotions as wrong or “bad.” Here’s the thing: Emotions are neutral. They are messengers. They serve a purpose. And whatever you feel, it’s okay to feel that way. Rather than label or judge the emotion, I find it far more useful to notice my response to it. Am I allowing and embracing it, or am I pushing it away? Am I witnessing it from a healthy distance, or am I blending with it? Am I exploring its underlying message, or am I making it wrong? Here’s a list of some common emotions, with useful ways we can respond, and responses to watch out for. I’m curious: do you see a more useful way you can respond? Which one resonates most with you? Share in the comments ✨ P.s. I explore these themes more deeply in my book, Choose Wonder Over Worry. The paperback edition is now available everywhere books are sold. (Link in bio to grab yours!)
- Rae also wrote a book: Choose Wonder Over Worry
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